Its true You have found love. You’re so excited about being in love. You can’t wait to flaunt your bae to your friends. You can’t wait to let your ex know that you weren’t a piece of trash after all. You want the whole world to know you’ve swept someone off their feet.
Before you do that, take a moment to ask yourself some pertinent questions. Is it safe? If it is, to what extent? If the relationship doesn’t work, would you have the guts to come back and flaunt your next bae?
Undoubtedly, we live in a digital era. Most of us spend most of our day on social media and the internet at large. Much as we can, however, we should be able to sieve our virtual lives from our real ones. As much as possible, we need some privacy— particularly in our relationships— especially if we are yet to walk down the aisle.
Dating or courting is a prelude to marriage. However, not all of such relationships lead to marriage— sometimes for the good of both of you. For Christ’s sake, you wouldn’t want to be explaining to every Tom, Dick, and Harry on your 5K friend list why you broke up with someone you had been flaunting all over social media. Trust me, it’s not only a chore but also such a psychological trauma as a person.
For married people, sharing pictures and content about their families poses a security risk to everyone in those pictures. Anyone who wants to harm a couple could possibly harm their children or kin. For unmarried couples, it poses even more risk to the relationship, especially if it’s in its teething stages. You draw unusual attention to yourselves and an avoidable tension may mount therein.
Keeping your relationship (which you’re expecting to lead to the altar) in the closet saves you from a lot of hell. When the unexpected happens, you’re able to manage any situation better. Ensuring the privacy of a relationship doesn’t mean you’re hiding your spouse-to-be. You are just being mature and careful about it.
Pay very good attention to these five tips on how to live your life openly on social media and still keep your love life private.
Here are the 6 sure ways to keep your relationship away from social media
- Don’t ‘dear-future-wife/husband’ them!
You see, one boring way to announce that you’re single is to make posts of yourself with a #DearFutureWife or #DearFutureHusband hashtag subtly alerting the world of your expectations in marriage. Guess what. Another boring way to announce you’ve finally found your missing rib is to continually post their pictures with the same hashtag on your social media pages.
We all know you want them to be your future spouse but hey… nature has its plans, too, which unfortunately may be contrary to yours. So take things easy.
- Don’t add their names to yours already!
It’s interesting how love can sometimes make us take actions we think through only lightly. We all should love with our hearts even as we think with our heads!
Don’t start calling yourself a ‘Mrs.’ already on social media even when you both have not wed yet. If you want to keep your relationship out of the eyes of social media, don’t change your account name into his. Possibly, don’t share your password details with them or even add their name to yours yet. You both haven’t walked down the aisle yet!
Besides, it’s your private account. Let it remain as such. Your profile picture should be only you; not the both of you. Your account name should be you; not the both of you.
- Don’t go about tagging him/her overly in/under every post!
Tagging a particular person in/under almost every post or comment raises eyebrows. Everyone wonders why it should always be them.
It’s OK if they are not really your ‘special one’. If they are, limit it. You draw unnecessary attention to both of you which makes people actually read between the lines.
- If it’s his/her birthday, leave a simple message!
Everyone wonders why you’d celebrate a particular person’s birthday for over a week with sumptuous captions on their pictures all the time. It’s great for you to desire to honor the love of your life. However, keep it plain and simple. Let it have no subliminal romantic tone. You can do all that in their inbox or tell them when you are with them.
Always remember you want to save the best wine of your relationship for the last. If you want that relationship to last indeed, keep it off social media and the Internet!
- Breaking up is easier.
Your relationship was great Yeah! You and your partner shared some lovely times and the world felt like they were on the journey with you. You gave your followers access to your relationship, forgetting that at the end of the day, it’s just you and your partner fighting to make your union work.
Relationships do end; that’s the nature of love. But ending a relationship that was so heavily adored on social media makes it a bit more difficult to pick up the pieces and open a new chapter. Sharing your relationship with the world comes with a consequence. You opened your union up for everyone to have a feel of it, so if you decide to go your different ways, be prepared for constant interrogation. Keeping your relationship private shelters you from the added drama. You can actually make up your mind to be done with your relationship, with no questioning, no obligation, and no stress.
- If it’s a picture of only you both, possibly don’t share!
In today’s world, people are quick to conclude who two people are in a picture. To save yourself from all the thousands of questions you’d have to answer from the social media community, just save that picture of you both for yourselves or better still don’t post it for everyone to see.
For a group picture of many others, you can always share. No one can really tell. Well, of course, unless they are wizards. haha.
